Dating Vanilla or Lifestyle- Part 2

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Written by: Barbie
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I recently dated a Vanilla with the intention of introducing him to the lifestyle. We had done some talking about it and I explained several different ways that couples can be in the lifestyle and how it can really entice and enhance our relationship. After several talks of Q&A and figuring out what is the best suited category for us I discovered that our thing should be exhibitionism. I was introduced this way and felt it was the best fit for us at that moment.

We started out by doing the Webcam online on one of the sights you can have others watch you. He was very nervous at first and was a bit difficult to get him started. But after he really began to relax he was watching the watcher counter rise higher and higher he became more excited and really began to enjoy it. This type of thing lasted about 2 weeks before he put a stop to it. I had asked about taking him to a party where we could do the same thing there but it would be in person. He was not hearing any part of it. I guess I thought men would be more open to the introduction then women would be but I was finding out more and more that there are a lot of men that don’t want any part of the lifestyle. He was under the impression that I was trying to get him to do things he didn’t want to do like swap partners.

This brought to light a very important thought to me…….He didn’t trust me and felt I was lying to him. I was bothered by that and tried to explain differently. It ended up not working out at all and we recently broke up. I have decided maybe converting Vanillas was not the best idea I had come up with so far. I love being in the lifestyle and being able to express your own sexuality is enjoyable that I want to share it with a special person. Maybe I should leave the Vanillas alone? Or should I try some other approach?

Not sure where I am going to go this time but one thing is for certain, I don’t want to leave the lifestyle and feeling like I have to choose is very difficult. So many factors go into having a relationship with someone in the lifestyle. I think I need a new plan for the next one.

Until next time…………. *~Kisses & Licks~*

About the Author

Barbie

I am a single Mom of two spectacular teeange kids and was divorced in 2008. I have since been studying to be a Computer Tech Geek at the local community college and found the Lifestyle in 2009. Started as a couple, which is difficult at best, and now fully enjoy the Lifestyle as a Single Female. Currently unemployeed but economic mishap, but I am sure to find my new job soon! Hopefully... hehehe I love the Spring and the Fall most of all cause it is cooler at night and not terribly hot during the day. Puts me in the Spring Cleaning Mood :-) currently remodeling my trailer that I am purchasing from my landlord and reside in Joshua, TX after spending my whole life in Fort Worth. I started helping a friend edit her blogs before she would post them and from there was asked if I wanted to write anything myself. I was so graciously excited and accepted the opportunity. I love sharing my thoughts and feelings and of course opinions about stuff with others and getting feedback as to what they have to say. I do hope to be able to continue doing this for a long time.