I recently dated a Vanilla with the intention of introducing him to the lifestyle. We had done some talking about it and I explained several different ways that couples can be in the lifestyle and how it can really entice and enhance our relationship. After several talks of Q&A and figuring out what is the best suited category for us I discovered that our thing should be exhibitionism. I was introduced this way and felt it was the best fit for us at that moment.
We started out by doing the Webcam online on one of the sights you can have others watch you. He was very nervous at first and was a bit difficult to get him started. But after he really began to relax he was watching the watcher counter rise higher and higher he became more excited and really began to enjoy it. This type of thing lasted about 2 weeks before he put a stop to it. I had asked about taking him to a party where we could do the same thing there but it would be in person. He was not hearing any part of it. I guess I thought men would be more open to the introduction then women would be but I was finding out more and more that there are a lot of men that don’t want any part of the lifestyle. He was under the impression that I was trying to get him to do things he didn’t want to do like swap partners.
This brought to light a very important thought to me…….He didn’t trust me and felt I was lying to him. I was bothered by that and tried to explain differently. It ended up not working out at all and we recently broke up. I have decided maybe converting Vanillas was not the best idea I had come up with so far. I love being in the lifestyle and being able to express your own sexuality is enjoyable that I want to share it with a special person. Maybe I should leave the Vanillas alone? Or should I try some other approach?
Not sure where I am going to go this time but one thing is for certain, I don’t want to leave the lifestyle and feeling like I have to choose is very difficult. So many factors go into having a relationship with someone in the lifestyle. I think I need a new plan for the next one.
Until next time…………. *~Kisses & Licks~*